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Category: Chick Lit

Let the Juicing Begin...

Come and get it!
Come and get it!

I will not quit I will not quit I will not quit…

This has become my mantra today, Day One of the Great Reboot, undertaken in solidarity with my daughter, who has had to begin a vegan juice fast for some stomach problems she’s been dealing with.

My daughter is already a vegetarian, so the idea of a straight-up veggie liquid diet ought not to be so foreign to her, though it is. She likes her veggies in a chewable state, thank you, and isn’t thrilled with this whole juicing mandate, which his why our family decided to support her cause by joining along.

Me? Well, I hate vegetables. I was weaned on Froot Loops and it was only downhill from there as far as my nutritional intake from the get-go. I grew up on a steady diet of Fluffernutter sandwiches and Twinkies and processed garbage that tasted not too shabby, if I do say so myself. Sure I ate fruit here and there. Usually in the summer when peaches and plums were in season. But veggies? No way, man.

It wasn’t until adulthood that I gradually incorporated a handful of vegetables into my annual diet repertoire. Yeah, you read that right: annual. Not like veggies are a daily part of my life anyhow. I’m exaggerating a bit — I do consume vegetables, but not often. With the ironic twist that I’m all about the Buy Local food movement, and buy local produce as much as possible. Mostly for my family.

I mean I’ll eat a salad if someone else makes it and it’s super gourmet. And contains things like nuts and dried fruit and goat cheese and artisanal croutons and homemade dressing. Now that’s my kinda salad. And I pick around all of the vegetables in it and mostly eat the add-ons. I’m fine with a veggie platter as long as it’s really fresh and it has a homemade ranch yogurt dip in which to drown said veggies. Throw in the occasional asparagus, maybe a mushroom or two (only if they’re fresh white button mushrooms), perhaps a sugar snap pea (the operative word there being sugar), and well, you’ve got the extent of vegetables I can tolerate. In fact most of the “vegetables” I find palatable are technically fruit, anyhow (tomatoes and peppers, for instance).

So you can imagine me trying to fathom undertaking a vegan juice fast. Might as well insert the true name: starvation diet. Alas, as explained by my daughter’s doctor, you have to keep your grehlin levels on an even keel, which means starvation isn’t an option, because it will defeat the whole idea of a juice fast. So avoiding vegetables as a means of this juice fast is not an option, darn it.

What, you may ask, is the idea behind a juice fast? Um, hell if I know. I’ll get back to you on that one. Okay, I lied. Basically the plan for your average Joe is to detox, get rid of all that crap and sludge that builds up in your system. Cleanse the liver and whatnot (note to self: no need to make matters worse with that liver by overconsuming delicious red wine on the eve of said juice fast. Of course my liver’s still trying to process that bad Advil I popped at 4 a.m…).

In addition, it can give your stomach a rest if you’re having trouble digesting solids. And by juicing you are piling on the nutritional value of plates full of vegetables, with every glass you drink, while enjoying the benefits of micronutrients or some such gobbledy gook I’ve been told. You’d be hard-pressed to ingest the normal way the amount of vegetables that you’ll consume in a juice fast. Check out the obscene volume of produce we had to purchase for four of us to fast — and this is just for the next several days.

our organic veggie juicing stockpile
our organic veggie juicing stockpile

I have a friend who undertook a juice fast last year and became downright evangelical about the benefits of juicing. She’s already one of those age-defying, gravity-defying women who you want to just assume has amazing genes, because most people her age look her age, yet she looks a good five years younger than me and she’s got a decade on me. She’s been a great source of encouragement and a wonderful resource for information. Shame she can’t also just drink my juices for me, since she loves them and I, well, I just don’t.

Which brings me to my first encounter with juicing today. Until now I have used one of those old-fashioned juice presses to squeeze delicious blood-orange juice, which I incorporate into my morning smoothie. That smoothie I thought was so healthy for me, what with mounds of berries and greek yogurt (all that protein!) and protein powder to boot. With fresh-squeezed blood orange juice. But evidently that’s nothing on plunking an orange, skin and all, into the juicer and consuming what comes out. Unfortunately mixed with all sorts of less-desirable greenery.


So breakfast today consisted of a bunch of kale (that’s about 14 leaves), a half head of romaine lettuce, a host of carrots (probably about 8), a cucumber, a lemon, and about 1/2-inch piece of ginger root. I will tell you never once in my life has kale (or any other healthy green, for that matter) passed my lips. I’ve probably eaten about 10 carrots in my whole life, and hated each bite. Cukes? I can deal with them in small quantities in salads. I mean they’re practically tasteless. I do love them in tzatsiki dip, if that counts (which is primarily simply a vehicle for the pita bread, which is what I really want). It was fun watching all those veggies transform into a bright green juice. It was not fun putting that juice to my mouth and knowing it had to go in. And down. While ensuring no return visit.

(Click here to see how that first glass went down)

I tried the first sip cold turkey. It was not delightful. I even put it in a martini glass to make it more festive. The thing is I couldn’t fool myself. It was green juice. I felt like I was on a goat diet. And I don’t mean a diet of eating goats but rather a diet of eating what goats eat. Actually goats probably have it better because they’ll eat the occasional shoe. Plugging my nose helped somewhat but there is always still that moment when you can’t run from the flavor a minute longer. And that’s the moment when you have to gulp and gulp fast, just get it down there, away from the taste buds, and have it start doing it’s thing.

As far as it’s thing? I’m not convinced of that yet.

“Your skin will look great!” Said the doctor (and others have corroborated this allegation).

“You’ll feel so energetic!” Says my friend. She is awfully energetic. I still chalk it up to genetics for her.

“You’ll lose weight!” Claims Joe What’s-His-Name, creator of the inspirational documentary Fat, Sick and Nearly Dead (more about that in a minute).

Right now I have a headache drilling through the center of my skull. My stomach is growling like an angry wildcat. I feel weak and woozy and just screamed at the dog for barking. I’m that surly that I can’t even let the poor dog do what a poor dog does. Ten days from now looks like eternity as I face the prospect of what the hell I can juice without dry heaving?

For me, food is such an integral part of daily life: the shopping, the preparation, the meal, the conversation, the communality that comes with it, the whole thing. So to have fueling one’s body being boiled down to its essence: i.e. stuffing a slew (and I do mean a slew) of veggies down the throat of a juicer and throwing back the end result as quickly as possibly just to get it over with, well, it sort of takes a bit of fun out of the day.

To make matters worse, already I find myself hand-washing dishes out the wazoo: bowls and cups and strainers and knives and cutting boards and all the receptacles that go into the production of a measly bucket of juice have to be re-used frequently all day long, especially when there are four of us juicing. My daughter who is away at college is grateful she’s off-the-hook for this one, happily ingesting dorm food (oxymoron, I know). “Well, looks like I’m not coming home till you’re done with this!” She said. You go right ahead and enjoy that dorm food. Which is going to start sound downright tasty before I know it. Grrrr.

My teeth are lonely and bored. They’re waiting for their chance to get to work. And they’re not gonna get it for a good long while. I wonder if bubble gum counts in a juice fast?

I swear to God my burps taste like meadows. My friend said, “Let’s hope you don’t leave behind meadow muffins!” I second that. I can’t fathom ingesting enough calories this way for that to be a worry.

My juicing daughter says she now has more empathy for her rabbit–though at least he gets to eat things whole!

So far I’ve done two rounds of juice — which translates into about a whopping 16 ounces and it’s nearing 2 o’clock. I tried to make the second juice more user-friendly (i.e. upped the ante, fruit-wise). You can’t get too aggressive with fruit, or you’ll end up with a sugar high and a sugar crash, and insulin levels off the charts. There’s clearly a fine line in introducing sugars (via fruits) to cut the edge off the green. I’ll be working on that. My second juice consisted of: a stick of pineapple, a blood orange, a handful of kale, a half head of romaine lettuce, 6 carrots, a cucumber, an inch of ginger (too much!), some watercress, some mint, and the kitchen sink (well, practically). The ratio is supposed to be 25% fruit to 75% veg. My daughter and I object and wish to reverse that, though clearly we don’t get a vote in the matter. That said, fruit in the juicer isn’t like fruit juice: once you throw it in there with the rind and all, well, it just doesn’t taste spectacular. Or maybe it’s the added kale juice that’s the killjoy.

The irony is my husband and my son, neither of whom needs a juice fast, are totally loving it. My daughter and I, the food lovers in the group, are muscling through, like it or not. For her, it’s not an option: she has to in order to maintain enough nutrition to not need medical intervention. For me, I have to, primarily to have her back while she’s suffering through this process. Though I admit I could definitely use the weight-loss that sure as hell better happen in great volumes from this thing. I’ve admittedly been in food hangover mode from a 3-month long food bender thanks to extensive traveling and celebrating a landmark birthday, with holidays to top it off.

For my third juice of the day (and I’m at half as much consumed as I’m supposed to be — I’ve only had 24 ounces and should be double that), I came a bit too close to puking it all back up. My daughter cackled at me.

She shouted up to my son, “Did you hear that?”

“The retching?” he asked.

Clearly sound travels. Glad we’re all getting a laugh at my expense.

“Think of barium, Mom,” my daughter said, cheering me on with glass #3.

This in reference to the hideous chalky liquid one has to ingest by the gallon when having an Upper GI done. Swallowing barium is an unpleasant experience, to say the least. And it ranks a close second to this juice fast so far.

Even the dogs are averse to this thing. When my daughter dipped her finger in and gave it to the dog to lick, she backed away with a shudder. So clearly even dog food is preferable to this stuff to some of us…

My evangelizing juicing friend had told about the documentary Fat, Sick and Nearly Dead. About a very wealthy (and personable) Australian man who’d lived it up a bit much and was paying the price for it with a huge gut and autoimmune problems for which he was on permanent steroids. He decided to fly to the States and cross the country while on a 60-day juice fast, recording his experience while enlisting people along the way. When my daughters doctor also referred to it, I was more curious to watch it.

I’d contemplated joining her on her mandatory fast, though there was that niggling problem of hating veggies. It was kind of like I really want to run a marathon, but my bum knee won’t ever allow it. So I can’t control the marathon dilemma, but dammit, I could control the vegetable aversion. I think. I thought. I don’t know.

But once in on this thing (and with a vast stockpile of vegetables we have to plow through), I’m in on it for the long-haul. I just wish the long-haul could be a bit more pleasant….

In the big picture, I have to stay in it to provide moral support for my girl. That is what will force my hand, when the taste of this stuff gets me down.

A doctor on the documentary said “It’s about retraining your tastebuds.” But I’m wondering if they’ll simply become deadened to their misery. Hard to say. I’m seeking out recipes on their Reboot website, hoping I’ll hit upon something that is my jackpot juice. In the meantime, my face is really itchy. Could I be — horror of horrors — allergic to vegetables? Maybe it’s been my body’s way of avoiding them all these years, by making me hate them.

I’ll keep you posted.

Sleeping with Ward Cleaver

Slim to None

Anywhere But Here

Where the Heart Is

Winging It: A Memoir of Caring for a Vengeful Parrot Who’s Determined to Kill Me

Accidentally on Purpose (written as Erin Delany)

Compromising Positions (written as Erin Delany)

I’m Not the Biggest Bitch in this Relationship (I’m a contributor)

And these shorts:
Idol Worship: A Lost Week with the Weirdos and Wannabes at American Idol Auditions

The Gall of It All: And None of the Three F’s Rhymes with Duck

Naked Man On Main Street

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Downton Pre-Premiere Q&A and Giveaway

Wellllll…I haven’t been around my blog in a good while…I’ve got plenty of excuses, but who wants to hear them? But I’m baaa-ck, with a giveaway!

But finally dragging me back over here to blog is one of my favorite shows, FINALLY coming back to the States, for all of us Anglophiles…Downtown Abbey returns Sunday night!

I’ve teamed up with Tracie Banister, whose book Blame it On the Fame I might have mentioned I really enjoyed, along with a host of other fun writers to celebrate and dish about Downton. To get ready for Sunday’s show, feel free to stop by everyone’s blogs and read their amusing answers to these Downton questions. Oh, and please join us for a virtual tea and crumpet-fest Sunday night on twitter, where we’ll partake in #DowntonGala to tweet/snark as we watch.

One lucky winner will receive a copy of a veddy Downton-esque novel, To Marry An English Lord, so please, join in the fun! {and p.s., to ratchet up your chances of winning, you can earn up to nine entries if you want to leave a comment on all nine of our blogs}.

(the giveaway will run until midnight on Thursday, January 10th and a winner will be announced on the 11th)

From the Gilded Age until 1914, more than 100 American heiresses invaded Britannia and swapped dollars for titles–just like Cora Crawley, Countess of Grantham, the first of the Downton Abbey characters Julian Fellowes was inspired to create after reading To Marry An English Lord. Filled with vivid personalities, gossipy anecdotes, grand houses, and a wealth of period details–plus photographs, illustrations, quotes, and the finer points of Victorian and Edwardian etiquette–To Marry An English Lord is social history at its liveliest and most accessible.

Here are our questions, and I’ll tell you MY answers. In the meantime, check out the other authors answers as well by linking to their sites.

Without further audieu, pip, pip, cheeri-o and all that rot!

1) You’re planning a dinner party for the Downton crew – who would be No. 1 on your invite list?

JG: Duh. Matthew. And NO ONE else but Matthew. And me. ‘Nuff said?

2) Whose closet will you raid before the party?

JG: Definitely not the Dowager Countess LOL. I’d have to go with Mary’s. And while I’m at it, can I steal her figure too?

3) Once your guests have arrived, who are you most likely to flirt with?

JG: Duh. Matthew. I wouldn’t even play hard to get. I’d be easy. You might say a downright Edwardian trollop!

4) Who will you likely smack before the dessert course?

JG: Welllll…I don’t want to smack Mary for taking Matthew, but I mean how else do I get rid of her? If not her, then definitely her venal sister Edith. Someone needs to set that chick right!

5) Let’s adjourn to the drawing room for some not-so-polite conversation: What’s your theory on Patrick Gordon aka The Bandaged Man? Impostor or legitimate Crawley?

JG: Totally an imposter. How dare he insinuate himself wrongfully into my clan?!

6) How about Bates? Did he do it? Could he do it? If not, who killed Vera?

JG: No way! I think Thomas, the conniving footman did it so he could set Bates up. He’s that sinister.

7) Favorite quip from the Dowager Countess?

JG: In deference to living in Charlottesville, which I’m surprised isn’t called Jeffersonville…Here’s one of many favorite exchanges of Violet:

Dowager Countess: Good heavens! What am I sitting on?

Matthew Crawley: A swivel…chair

Dowager Countess: Oh, another modern brainwave?
Matthew: Not very modern; they were invented by Thomas Jefferson.

Dowager Countess: Why does every day involve a fight with an American?

8) Favorite Downton spoof?

JG: Hands-down, Jimmy Fallon’s is my favorite


9) Now you’ve done it! You’ve landed a guest spot on the show. What’s your storyline?

JG: I’m Matthews long-lost bride and mother of his children (this’ll cement the deal) who’s come to retrieve him to his rightful home with moi, naturally. I might have to jack up some of those princesses to get my wicked way.

10) What would you like to see happen in series three?

JG: Well…I saw a PBS teaser and they’re saying the Crawleys lose their fortune, which does not please me. I’m hoping my darling Matthew hasn’t lost his, at least. If they all have to start wearing dowdy second-hand clothes and serve meals to the servants, it won’t be quite the same show, will it?


Okay, then. Thus concludes my answers to the the Downton Abbey Q & A. Don’t forget to visit the other participating authors’ blogs to see what they’ve got in store!

And if you’d like to be considered to win the book, I need you to answer question #4: Who will you likely smack before the dessert course?

And I hope to e-see you at the #DowntonGala on Sunday night!

Now scurry off to visit these other authors’ blogs for more fun Downton questions and answers!

Jenny Gardiner:
Tracey Livesay:

Sipping away at my Earl Gray, with pinky extended…


Sleeping with Ward Cleaver

Slim to None

Anywhere But Here

Where the Heart Is

Winging It: A Memoir of Caring for a Vengeful Parrot Who’s Determined to Kill Me

Accidentally on Purpose (written as Erin Delany)

Compromising Positions (written as Erin Delany)

I’m Not the Biggest Bitch in this Relationship (I’m a contributor)

And these shorts:
Idol Worship: A Lost Week with the Weirdos and Wannabes at American Idol Auditions

The Gall of It All: And None of the Three F’s Rhymes with Duck

Naked Man On Main Street

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 find me on my website

I Swore I'd Never Write a Vampire Novel...

Really, I did.

For years I would lament to my friends, family, agent, anyone who would listen to me about how annoyed I was with the vampire trend; like the subject matter of these novels, they simply would NOT die. Made me crazy that fabulous novels were being passed on by publishing houses while mountains of tripe were being published under the guise of a “literary” craze. Sure there were good vampire novels out there, but really? I’d bet the vast majority of them were mediocre drivel.

So I was meeting with my agent at a conference, bemoaning the finicky state of publishing, and jokingly mentioned an idea I had for a vampire novel, one I’d never write, because it was a ludicrous idea, so I figured it would be the thing publishing houses would go for (as opposed to the books I wanted to pitch but weren’t the ones pub houses were looking for).

“So you have this woman who is turned into a vampire by her cheating husband, who was turned into a vampire by someone he’d slept with,” I say with a laugh. “She then spends the rest of eternity trying to exact revenge on him for his betrayal. And it’ll be a funny book.”

I expected her to pat me on the knee and tell me to get back to writing a good book. But instead she said she liked the idea and thought it might have legs.

A week or so later, she tells me she had lunch with an editor who loved it and wanted to see pages. Pages of a book. One I hadn’t planned on and wasn’t planning on writing. So I got to work cranking out this non-novel of mine; I hunkered down and wrote and wrote and wrote. Got about 80 pages into it and slapped together a synopsis and sent it off to my agent, assuming that would be the last I’d heard of it.

Turns out the editor loved the partial I’d sent on, and she was taking it to ed board. Well, if you’ve been around the publishing business long enough you learn about ed board. It’s the gathering of insiders in a publishing house who either green light or kill your dream. Long gone are the days in which ed boards embraced risky books, or different books or anything but for what seems like something penned by the reality TV celebrity du jour, who doesn’t actually write the thing anyhow but goes on a huge national tour earning gobs of cash while flacking their lousy book that no one with a modicum of self respect ought to even purchase, let alone read. Okay, off my soap box.

Anyhow, after the economy tanked and the publishing industry lost its last ounce of true soul, it became damn near impossible to find consensus on a whole lot of books, particularly in women’s fiction, which at the time was a hard sell on a good day anyhow. So when my book went to ed board with an editor who loved it and really pushed for it, I still figured it had a minimal chance of getting the thumbs up. And sure enough, apparently the editor in chief or the publisher or someone all-powerful in this ed board determined that humor in these kinds of books either works or it doesn’t work and they weren’t going to chance it. Thus driving a stake in the heart of my vampire-novel-that-wouldn’t-be.

My agent shopped it around a little bit more, found another editor who apparently really liked it but then she quit the business a week later. By then the genre had finally, finally died. Just in time for me to try to break into it. (This tends to happen with me–give me a genre and I’ll kill it in a day flat; certainly worked well with chick lit).

Since then, my novel has been collecting dust in the far corners of my computer. I’ve entertained the idea of finishing it and publishing it myself, but really have just been too busy with other things to get around to it. So I figured I’d throw this up as my trunk novel and get your read on what you think of it. Should I keep this vampire hermetically sealed with garlic cloves and silver stakes in my laptop dead file that should be re-named “The Graveyard”? Or should I resurrect this monster and give it a new life on your e-reader of choice? You decide…


It all started innocently enough. Well, as innocently as these things can start, anyhow. And perhaps I wasn’t entirely guiltless, if only because I succumbed to that most human of conditions: lust.

Although it wasn’t the lust that killed my marriage. That came later. The demise of our union came courtesy of my execrable, lamentable and most deplorable husband, who decided to spring upon me an unexpected midlife crisis, in which he was overtaken by the entirely selfish urge to sow some wild oats. Or barley. Or grass seed, for all I know. For that matter I didn’t know much of anything. All I did know was that that fucker dumped me. High and dry. While I was doing a load of his whites.

“I’m not feeling fulfilled,” he’d said to me that day as I sorted the more stained clothes from the hamper into a separate pile.

“Fulfilled?” I asked, not even looking up as I un-mated yet another pair of his soggy gym socks (why he re-rolled dirty socks was always a mystery to me). I thought he was talking about a dearth of intellectual stimulation in his life. “Take a class or something.”

Jude toed the ground in front of him with his black-soled sensible accountant shoes, scuffing the freshly-polished hardwoods of my sparkling laundry room. I’ve always felt that a laundry room is a reflection of the rest of one’s life and my laundry room floor was clean enough to lick. Not that my life was particularly lickable, but you know what I mean.

I leaned over with a spray bottle of Murphy’s Oil Soap, always at the ready, and pumped two squirts at the offending marks, wiping them clean with a pair of his BVDs that were awaiting a bleaching.

“Are those my Calvin Kleins?” he asked, grabbing them from me, glaring at the brownish Murphy splotch right on the butt of the things. I suppose if that didn’t come out in the wash it could cause some embarrassment. But then again who would see them but me, anyhow?

“No worries. They’re going in the wash for a good soak, so I thought I’d just save myself having to clean a dirty rag.”

I suppose it should have been a red flag that the underwear in question was of the designer variety, and that he even knew that they were. Until a few months ago I could buy Jude’s tightie whities in bulk at Costco and he’d have only praised me for my thrift. But at age forty-five, his seeking out designer drawers should have been the first of my indicators that our relationship had gone awry.

“Look, Marina, I don’t appreciate you using my Calvin Kleins as a dishrag.”

“In case you hadn’t noticed, there are no dishes here. Besides, I didn’t use your underwear for anything more than wiping up your scuff.” I pointed to the ground for emphasis.

Jude put his hands in his pockets and looked toward the doorway, sighing, his shoulders actually slumping as if I’d tossed a hefty sack of potatoes over each one.

“I need some space. Some time away. I’m not happy.”

I stopped in mid-sort and stared at him, trying to peer into what I then realized was quite a blank face, one masked with apathy.

“Just because I used your tight whites to wipe up some dirt off the floor?”

“They’re not tight whites. They’re boxer-briefs.”

Oh, my god. Boxer briefs. Twenty years of marriage, dissolved over a semantic disagreement about a pair of undies. I began to wring my hands, stammering to find the right words to come out. But what could I say? One minute I was just attending to my household obligations and the next I was being kicked to the curb.

“Look,” he said, his usually pleasant face contorted in such a way that he appeared as if he was torn between trying to apologize for being a dick and thrilled that he’d finally come out and said it  his inner demons plying his visage like a glob of silly putty. “I’m sorry. I tried to fight it. Really I did. I just need to work some things out.”

“Things? What sort of things?” I sobbed, spritzing some Windex on the surface of the washing machine to clean up the liquid Tide that had dribbled there. “Or is it some woman named ‘Thing’?”

He shook his head back and forth. “No, there is no thing. Well, there are things. But no Thing. Does that make sense?”

“Of course it makes no sense. You’re not making sense.”

Jude buried his face in his hands. “It’s bigger than me. You simply have to believe me when I say this. It’s out of my hands.”

With that, he turned and walked away, striding through the kitchen and out the garage door as if he was late for a doctor’s appointment, with only these parting words, “I’ll make sure you’re taken care of, you know. I don’t want you to think I’m a complete asshole.”

As if.


But it goes without saying that when you’ve been married for two decades and you have gratuitous sex on a somewhat regular basis for half your life and then wham!, you aren’t having any at all, well you might just overlook your better judgment when that green-eyed horntoad comes hop-hop-hopping along. I hadn’t gotten laid in several months; a girl can only take but so much deprivation.

So how was I to know it was going to be a huge mistake? And not just shit, I wish I’d bought those fabulous shoes on sale at Nordstrom’s last week huge, but oh crap, it’s the end of the world as I know it huge. As far as mistakes go, this was of the A-bomb variety.

Jude had come by to drop off a support check. It was the least he could do after everything. Bad enough he abandoned me and our lives, but to do so and leave me with no cash to pay the bills and the mortgage, well that would be entirely unseemly and Jude was nothing if not seemly when it came to finances. What more could you expect from a CPA?

I’d already poured myself a second glass of wine (having tossed one down my gullet in anticipation of his arrival) so I didn’t exactly notice Jude’s peculiarly cold stare and peaked countenance at first, the whites of his azure eyes a stippled with red. I thought maybe he was just tired, and I was plenty satisfied to see that his footloose lifestyle might not be agreeing with him so much. Hey, I know at this point in life carousing all night is not as easy as it once was.

I invited him to have a seat and I took my place to his right, expecting him to initiate conversation. I straightened a stack of magazines in front of me on the coffee table, then fanned them out, finally settling on a neat stack while awaiting a word from his pursed lips.

“What’s the matter   cat got your tongue?” I finally asked him after a few long minutes of awkward silence. I know it seems weird that I’d even let the man into my house, all things considered, but I am a firm believer in trying to remain on speaking terms with one’s ex. Of course I never knew I’d have to practice what I preached in that regard, but now that I must is no time to drop one’s standards.

I grabbed another Waterford goblet (the pattern we’d registered for together at Bloomingdales all those many years ago) from the china closet to pour Jude a glass. I couldn’t have the man leaving me money without being somewhat polite toward him.

“Wine?” I asked.

His eyes lit up a little bit. “What do you have?”

“Red okay?”

He loosened his necktie, looking ravenous, as if he hadn’t had anything to eat or drink in days and my offering was going to solve that problem pronto.

“I’ve been dying for something red,” he said.

Of course I didn’t even think twice about it. Sometimes I could kill for something red myself. We talked for a little bit about this and thats, nothing important. I asked if he was doing his laundry fine and he said he’d found a woman in his apartment building who had offered to do it for him. Figures. Wonder if she’s staining his Calvin Kleins.

“What’s she getting in return?” I asked as I squinted a bit, afraid I could guess at the answer. He merely raised his eyebrows, but I swear I saw a passing glimpse of pain alight on his face. But just as quickly it dissipated, and he leaned back against the sofa, stretching his arms across while crossing one leg over the other.

“You look good, Marina,” he said, nodding up and down at me. I guess he liked my new red highlights.

I half-laughed a sort of sad, hollow laugh.

“No, seriously. Good enough to eat.” He reached across and tucked a finger beneath the strap of my pink camisole Hello Kitty! pajama top. I guess I had been looking a little better lately; a marital break-up has a way of helping a girl slim down in no time.

“But not good enough to see you through your crisis of self I suppose,” I said looking down at the ground. I couldn’t help but remain conflicted about the man. Part of me hated him down to his DNA and wanted to reach into his throat and extract his internal organs and splay them in front of his face, just to exact a bit of revenge. But the other part of me couldn’t get over what we’d once had. Up until a month ago I had loved this man and no other. I’d trusted him.

“I told you, Marina, I’m just trying to get my head on straight,” he said, running the fingers of his free hand through his wavy, black hair as if whatever was on his mind was paining him. Yet he continued to twirl the strap of my top.

We sipped some wine and talked about Bittsy, our black cat, a bit. So far Jude hadn’t made a play for custody of Bittsy, which was good. Because I’d no sooner give her up than I’d die for the man.

Jude wiped his lips after finishing off his glass of wine. I took a final sip of mine and a trickle of wine missed my mouth, trailing down my chin to my neck. Just as I was about to dab it away, Jude, always the chivalrous man, came to the rescue.

“Here, let me,” he said, and I fully expected him to blot the drip with his thumb. Instead he leaned forward and dragged his tongue from the base of my neck to just beneath my chin, then licked his lips for emphasis. It sent chills up my spine. Unfortunately not bad chills, either.

There was something eerily sensual about Jude that night. Like how a male stripper can be both a turn on and a turn off at the same time. Fact is, I’d never done it with someone as seductive (or forbidden) as a male stripper before, and for some reason the notion of illicit sex (or at that point, any sex) sounded so appealing.

“What was that for?” I panted out the question as if I’d just sprinted the hundred-yard dash.

“You know you can be terribly irresistible, Marina.”

Jude licked his lips again in an almost wolfish manner. Now, throughout the course of our marriage, the sex was fine, but it was never downright erotic. There was never once a moment when I felt the kind of thrill you might get, say, if you rob a bank. Not that that would thrill me, mind you. Yet here was my ex-husband, the ink barely dry on the divorce decree, heating up my libido with the mere trace of his tongue across lips?

I was trying to figure out what to say next when Jude took matters into his own hands. He grabbed the bottle of Merlot from the coffee table, and poured a splash down the center of my neck, into my cleavage. A small part of me was mentally shrieking “Why! I never!”   what with the guaranteed wine stain on my pajama top (and don’t even remind me of the one on my dupioni silk divan). But an ever bigger part of me was in hubba-hubba mode, because I hadn’t ever driven a man to do something like that.

Before I knew what was happening Jude was atop me, licking me like a starving schnauzer that’s been given a bone coated in peanut butter. His hands were under my top before I could even protest (and at that point how could I?) and before I could do much more but surrender both of us were clawing at each other, hurling clothes as far away as the kitchen. I should’ve demanded a condom —what if he’d been sleeping with the laundry lady?— but foolishly discounted it (we’d given up worrying about pregnancy years ago, to my dismay).

“Marina, you make me do strange things,” Jude said as he entered me with far more force than I ever recall, yet far more passion as well, grabbing, groping, pulling, and nipping as he was.

“If this is what you call strange then I’m all for making it more familiar,” I said as I searched for his mouth, which seemed to be in a frenzy trying to stake his claim all over my body.

“Oh, my God,” Jude groaned with one final thrust as his hungry mouth came down along the column of my neck.

“Oh, sweet Jesus,” I screamed as I felt as if a staple gun had just punctured my throat. “What the fuck are you doing?”

For a moment all I could hear was panting, his and mine intermingled, but mine more with fear, his more with what seemed to be repletion. As Jude finally released his grip on my neck, I reached to feel what the branding iron pain was from, and my fingers came away smeared with blood.

I pushed Jude off of me and sat up, naked, trembling. “What the hell is wrong with you? You hurt me!”

“Oh, shit.” He wiped away a trickle of blood from his lips then rolled off of me and groaned, first quietly, but then louder and louder until he was screaming. “Oh God! How could I have done that?”

“Done what?” He was really scaring me. First with that bite that came out of nowhere and then this, as if he’d unleashed the Hounds of Hell on me and now regretted it.

I looked closely at his face and saw that his pallor seemed to have perked up. He almost glowed with good health.

“Have you done something that will get you into trouble?” I ask, rubbing my neck, which hurt like a sonofabitch.

Jude stood up and began to pace, muttering inaudibles over and over again, dragging his fingers through his hair as if raking up a leaf-strewn yard.

“Marina, you’d better sit down.”

Considering I already was sitting down   stark naked, I might add — that was hardly sage advice. I had this feeling come over me, a really bad feeling. Like when my mother broke the news to me that my father was dying of cancer. Somehow I must have sensed that whatever Jude was about to say was going to throw my world into upheaval.

Jude was pacing like a convict awaiting the executioner, and deliberately not making eye contact with me. Naked pacing ought to be considered an obvious sign of trouble ahead.

“Now what I’m about to say you’re not going to like,” he started out. And by phrasing things that way he assured himself that I’d be unhappy with it. By then I’d grabbed a dishtowel to blot the blood from that bizarre little love bite of his. Whatever was up with that I figured I’d never know.

“You’re giving me the creeps, Jude. Just get on with it.”

Jude sat on the coffee table, facing me, then stood up again, pacing some more, his dangly bits flapping around like a semaphore warning.

“Christ, Jude, the floor’s going to catch fire if you don’t stop making so much friction on it. Okay, okay, I get the hint. You regret having slept with me. I can deal with it. To tell you the truth I only did it because I was horny anyhow

“You only slept with me because you were horny?”

I gave him a “no duh” look, rolling my eyes.


He began to knead his face with his hands. 

“When I said I had to leave you it wasn’t because I didn’t love you, Marina,” he said. “It was because something happened. Something horrible happened.” 

I just stared at him, not sure whether I should call 9-1-1 or push him out the door.

“I met a woman. And I’ll admit, she was beautiful. Blonde, stacked. She had an amazing ass.”

“Cut to the chase. I don’t need to hear about your infidelities at this point. We’re divorced, now, in case you hadn’t noticed.”

Talk about tacky, fresh after hooking up with your ex, chatting about a booty call with another woman.

“No, but see, I didn’t want to be unfaithful. Sure, I didn’t mind looking at her. I mean she was a knockout. I’ll admit she got my blood stirring. God, that wasn’t well-phrased. Let’s take that back. So maybe she inspired some thoughts in me. But I loved  love  you, Marina.”

“Don’t talk about love with me, Jude. I’m the one who loved you and look what you did to that.”

“But that’s what I’m getting at. I had to leave you. And it’s because of this woman. I met her through work. She came in one day, without an appointment, said she wanted to meet with me. I told her to talk to DeeDee about setting up a time. She did, but in the meantime she followed me after work one day—she seemed so insistent about this. Claimed she needed an accountant for a business that had been in the family for many generations. Wanted to meet over drinks to discuss what she needed from me. I was going to tell her to just stick with her appointment but she begged me.”

“Since when did you succumb to a woman begging you?” Jude was not your average bird dog when it came to women. I can’t remember him even watching another gal in my presence.

He put his finger to his lips; I shut up and let him continue. “Finally I relented and told her we could meet for a drink. I met her at Q Bar, the one we went to for your birthday last year.”

“You took her to my birthday bar?”

“I didn’t take her — I was just meeting her there. I was a few minutes late and she was drumming her fingers on the bar, looking most impatient. Once we sat down to talk, I realized there was something about her, something eerily mesmerizing. I couldn’t keep my eyes off her, like I had no control over myself. Sure I stared at her. Who can look at a Da Vinci without an appreciative eye?”

“Are you trying to piss me off?”

“I’m just saying. But I soon realized the more I tried to look away from her, the more she fixed her gaze on mine, pinning her focus on me so precisely it was like a laser beam being used to hone in on its target. I couldn’t do a thing about it. Before I knew what was happening, we were in an alley behind Chili’s and she had her hand on my” 

“I told you I don’t want to hear about your dalliances, Jude.” 

“But it’s relevant information,” he said. “Now, where was I? Oh, yeah, she had her hand on my crotch and even though I knew in my heart it was wrong, I couldn’t help myself, babe.” 

“Don’t babe me.” 

“Honestly I couldn’t help it. And then I was pushing up her skirt and she was tugging down my pants and somehow deep down in my gut I felt certain I was going to be having the best sex of my life when she opened her mouth wide, wide like a snake about to eat something ten times its size, and then she clamped down on my neck and I felt this pain, like someone had

“Shot a staple gun in your neck,” I said, my whole body beginning to tremble.

“I didn’t know what had happened at first,” Jude continued. “I looked over at this woman and she looked as if someone had just infused her with sunshine, she practically glowed all of a sudden. And then I

“Reached down and felt your neck

“And it was warm and wet

“And when you took your hand away

 “There. Was


I was shaking, the sort of 7.0-on-the-Richter scale tremors that happen when you’re coming out of anesthesia following surgery. I wanted a warm hospital blanket and a soothing nurse at that very moment to calm me, to tell me I was all right. For that matter I’d have been much happier to realize I’d emerged from mere surgery with a simple organ removed, rather than my entire future excised without having even signed a consent form.

“Before I could find anything more about this woman, she was gone. The only thing I had left with the slightest hint about her was a web address she’d given me:

“I thought it was her business website, so I looked it up, but there was nothing there. Nothing. Then when I typed in the word sanguine, I hit the jackpot. Well, jackpot in a bad way. I realized then what had happened.”

By that time I’d grabbed the wedding afghan that my Aunt Bertie had crocheted for me, her twelfth niece, and wrapped myself , mummy-like, with it. I didn’t particularly like the thing, but always felt so badly that poor Aunt Bertie died a spinster and I knew someone had to appreciate her handiwork, even if it did catch fingers and toes if you tried to sleep with it. And was the color of  oh, God  dried blood. 

“I still hadn’t fully embraced what had happened. I mean, yeah, I’ve watched Buffy the Vampire Slayer. But that was just television. I knew there was nothing like this in real life. Surely this was just some insane woman who had a really creepy fetish.”

I was feeling especially lightheaded, the way you feel after you’ve given blood. Only no one was nearby to hand me a cookie and a glass of orange juice. Oh, wait, I had given blood. Only not of my own volition. I still hadn’t the energy to say much of anything, so I sat back and listened, staring as if in a trance. 

“I knew I’d done everything wrong. Everything. I mean, I had sex with this stranger. Even though I was married to you. And that was bad enough. But then, but then…” he trailed off and just sort of stood there, still naked, his shrunken willy looking about as forlorn as I think he was. “After I came home, I tried to research more about this. But everything I read kept coming back to the same thing. And as the days progressed, I began to feel weaker, I knew what I needed, but I couldn’t bring myself to do it. I mean what was I going to do, go down to the local blood bank and ask to make a withdrawal?” 

At that my stomach began to lurch, like a very flat tire trying to progress down the road. Flop, flop, flop. I could feel the wine and the Moo Goo Gai Pan I’d eaten an hour earlier (along with about four Chips Ahoys and a box of Jujubes) all vying against one another to be the first back up the chute. 

I raced to the nearest receptacle, my kitchen recycling bin, and heaved repeatedly. For the record, the Jujubes won. 

I stood up, my ugly vermillion afghan draped across me like Dracula’s cape — oh, God, no — and stared at my husband. My ex-husband.

“You mean to tell me you’ve fucking turned me into a vampire?” For a whisper of a moment, the amount of time it takes a hummingbird to flap its wings, I stood frozen in place. But then I surged forward, pounding my fists against Jude in rapid-fire motion, as fast as Phil Collins with a set of drumsticks.

“YOU FUCKING TURNED ME INTO A VAMPIRE??? You bastard!” I screamed, pounding with what felt like a bizarrely superhuman strength, as if I’d suddenly been imbued with invincibility, but realizing that it wasn’t even eliciting a flinch from the man. Beast. Whatever he was. Or I now am. “Everything!,” I shrieked. “Everything! I had everything ahead of me!” 

Well, maybe not everything, but I could have if I’d have wanted it.

“And now, just-just-just look at me” I pointed at my chest. “Look at these!” My droopy middle-aged breasts were slumped across my torso like a broken spirit. 

“I kept meaning to make an appointment with a plastic surgeon to discuss fixing these puppies! Couldn’t you have at least waited till I’d gotten around to doing that? Now I’m stuck with sagging tits for all of eternity?” 

“I’m sorry, Marina, I tried to resist,” he said, letting out a sigh that seemed to reached to the bottom of the earth. “But when I saw you looking all sexy like that, what could I do? You know that all men think with their dicks. Why would I be an exception? Besides, I love your breasts just the way they are.” He reached over in an attempt to tweak one but I swatted him away immediately. 

“Sexy like what? I was sitting here minding my own business in my Hello Kitty! pajamas! You’ve got a hell of a lot of explaining to do.” 

Jude grabbed a throw pillow and plunked down on my burgundy leather Queen Anne (which would surely stick to his sweaty flesh. Unless vampire flesh has a Teflon quality to it I don’t know about). He at least had the decency to cover himself up with the pillow. 

“So the more I read about my dilemma” 

“Dilemma? Are you mad? Dilemma is trying to figure out how you’re going to get to work on time when you’re stuck in rush hour traffic” 

“Okay, fine, the more I read about my predicament, the more I realized it came with all sorts of, well, let’s say contraindications to our staying together.” 

“Contraindications? Now we’re cribbing from the pharmacy warning labels?” 

“Would you let me continue? This is hard enough, in case you hadn’t noticed.” 

“You just sucked blood from my neck, Jude. Like some greedy two hundred pound mosquito. You’ve apparently just made me immortal, for fuck’s sake  nothing I ever wanted, by the way. So don’t look for much sympathy from this corner of the peanut gallery.” 

He gave a subtle nod in my direction, meager acknowledgment for his transgressions if you ask me. “Anyhow. The longer I went without sustenance, the more I craved it. At first I was able to stave off the yearnings. I was eating steaks  rare  every day at lunch. But I soon discovered that steak alone wasn’t going to do the job. I had to go on the prowl.” 

“The prowl? Like some middle-aged Mr. Goodbar?” 

Jude rolled his eyes at me. “I was trying to protect you, Marina.” 

“Clearly that worked.” I glared at him. “So this is when the fancy underpants came into play?”

“They’re not underpants.”

“Whatever. So this is when you started dressing to, what, kill?”

Jude flinched at that. “I wasn’t trying to kill anyone. But I didn’t know what to do. And really, I didn’t exactly kill them. I just changed their natural state.”

“I’ll say. Like going from a state of ecstasy to the state penitentiary. Only this prison’s for all eternity.” Was it for eternity? I was trying to probe the recesses of my memory for some notion about vampire lore. I dressed as Dracula for Halloween once or twice, but I didn’t bone up on Drac’s habits for the occasion.

“So did you have extended hook-ups with women? Or did you just nab ’em in the elevator and give ’em the old one-two?” I made a hook and an uppercut with my arms, then looked over and saw the truth carved like wrinkles into his face. “You slept with them and you killed them?”

“I couldn’t help it, Marina,” he said. “And I didn’t kill them. I just” 

“I know what you just” 

“I was trying to preserve us. Honestly, I did this for you.”

“For me!!!” For about one more millisecond I was rendered speechless but then the tidal wave of fury beckons forth from my mouth -— that very mouth that is now going to have to find a taste for blood. With me, a vegetarian. Jesus. I’ve always been pretty good at math, but this sort of calculation doesn’t add up no matter how many ways I try to work the equation. 

“First you have sex with a strange, beautiful woman in a dark alley. Then you start cruising for new meat like some sort of, of, of cannibal, doing god knows what to get your fix, and now you’ve destroyed me, destroyed my life.” I pace the room back and forth like some nervous father-to-be awaiting a cigar and an It’s a Boy! declaration. “Jesus! My mother warned me about men! But did I listen? No. I told her you weren’t like other men. But she told me one day I’d know better. This is one time I wish my mother wasn’t right.

“It’s all making sense now,” I said, trying to feign calm while teetering on the edge of manic rage, a veritable cattle stampede of anger. “First the damned underwear. Then the steaks! You gave up red meat for me years ago. But then you started sneaking behind my back eating steak again. I thought I smelled blood in your sweat at the gym, dammit. Steaks. Now my life is going to be about steaks and stakes. Jesus, fuck. And you knew about my blood aversion. It’s why I didn’t go to med school. I can barely attend the annual Red Cross gala. And I practically faint at the sight of blood! Goddammit Jude, how could you? You know I’m not a night owl! And now I have to avoid daylight?? How the hell am I going to get a suntan? You tell me that. Christ, I should’ve known ex-sex would lead to no good. This is bad. On a bad scale with zero being a paper cut and a hundred being my dog got hit by a train, this is a bazillion on that bad scale. A bazillion, Jude, do you hear me? You’ve just sentenced me to an even worse fate than you because a) you betrayed your wife when you fucked some strange woman behind the Chili’s  and god, we don’t even eat at Chilis!  so you deserve this, and b) this is going to really put a kink in my life. How the hell do you expect a vegetarian hemophobe to survive as a vampire? You tell me that? Am I supposed to mug a blood courier? Cause I’ll never do what you just did to get by.” 

Jude grabbed another nearby blanket and wrapped it around his waist. “First off, I don’t know where you get the idea that somehow you’ll be afraid of gay people” 

I poked him in his forehead with my forefinger, wishing I had the power to make an actual indentation, a keepsake for him to remember what an ass he is. “I said hemophobe, not homophobe.” 

“It was a joke, Marina. Remember, we always love to joke together?”

“Joke’s on you, too, cause this is no laughing matter. Why’d you go and kill me, Jude? Did you hate me that much?”

“I didn’t kill you  I made you immortal!” 

“Whoo-hoo! I get to be immortal. With these!” I screamed, pointing again at my ta-ta’s. 

“But don’t you get it? It’s not about that stuff. It’s bigger than all of that. It’s about Us, with a big U. Us reuniting. Back together again. Maybe on some subconscious level I did this on purpose, because I wanted — needed  to share my forever with you. Just think, now we can be together for all eternity.” 

Me? Together with you?” I shrieked yet again. It seems that shrieking might well be a hallmark of vampirism. “For all eternity? Are you out of your fucking mind? You just killed me, and now you want me to be yours? Put it in a goddamned valentine.” 

I got up, supercharged with my newfound and roiling anger heaving like a stomach with a bad case of food poisoning. I stormed across the living room and kitchen, collecting bits of my ex-husband’s clothing, confetti that started out celebratory but now only served as a stale reminder of what wasn’t. I opened the fireplace screen, pulled the flue handle down, and piled his pants, shirt and shoes atop the andirons. I pulled the matchbox off the mantle, upon which was the last remaining picture of me and Jude together, which I grabbed and threw in with the rest, and lit the pile on fire. Jude came rushing over. 

“Marina! You can’t do that!” 

“Oh I think you broke the bank on can’t do that’s. I most certainly can, and watch me.” I blocked his body as I let the conflagration erupt, the soles of his shoes smoldering longer than the flash-fire cotton of his shirt. 

“My clothes. I need my clothes” 

“My life. I needed my life, and you snatched that right out from under me.”

“Honey, why don’t you just sleep on this, maybe you’ll see things clearer in the morning.”

“This isn’t like breaking up with my first boyfriend. Nothing will become clear in this picture. Now. GET OUT.” I wiped my hands against each other, as if erasing him from my existence. I grabbed a fireplace poker and skewered him in the butt, pushing him toward the front door.

“But Marina, honey, I love you.”

Out!” I began hitting him, hoping he’d finally take the hint. As we made it to the doorway, enacting the very reverse of that newlywed tradition of the groom carrying the bride across the threshold, a flash of white caught my eye, and I reached down to spear what I saw.

“Don’t forget these,” I said, passing Jude his beloved Calvin Kleins on the spear tip of my fireplace poker. “I think you’re gonna need them.”


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Sleeping with Ward Cleaver

Slim to None

Anywhere But Here

Where the Heart Is


Winging It: A Memoir of Caring for a Vengeful Parrot Who’s Determined to Kill Me

Accidentally on Purpose (written as Erin Delany)

Compromising Positions (written as Erin Delany)

I’m Not the Biggest Bitch in this Relationship (I’m a contributor)

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Idol Worship: A Lost Week with the Weirdos and Wannabes at American Idol Auditions

The Gall of It All: And None of the Three F’s Rhymes with Duck

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